Bloch, Richard
Cancer is a unique disease in many ways.One of them is that it affects the
entire family and friends. Another is the fact that support is a vital factor
in the recovery process. Therefore, this article is directed toward the
family and friends of cancer patients.
You are not alone. The American Cancer Society estimates that one out of
three Americans will be stricken with cancer. Nearly every family will be
touched.
The fundamental thread to remember is that the patient is a living being. The
diagnosis of disease may have changed their focus, but it has not changed
their likes and dislikes. Like every human being, they have interests they
want to continue sharing. Be there for them and with them.
Sorrow is for the dead. Concern and caring is for the living. The worst thing
you can do is avoid the patient. Be with them. Your actions do not have to be
negative, submissive or passive. They should be positive, active and helpful.
Guide for Cancer Supporters is about actions! Actions you can take from the
beginning and continue all the way through a cancer patient's recovery. What
is important is to do the things that will really help a patient. Make them
feel better now and in the long run. Try to help them have a better chance of
succeeding in the fight against their disease.
In order to be a true helper, start out trying to understand how the patient
feels. That is not what they say or how they act, but their true deep down
feelings. To do this, you must understand what they are going through.
They have been told they have cancer. It is impossible to appreciate the
gravity of that short statement if you have not yourself been told this.
Cancer is the most feared disease in America. All our life, we have been
raised to understand that cancer kills. We have been told that it is a
horrible disease accompanied by pain, suffering and treatments that are
probably worse than the disease itself. Even though we might not recall them
at the moment, our subconscious recalls individuals who have had cancer, all
of whom suffered and died. Supposedly cancer means pain and imminent death.
This is probably the first time the patient has had to seriously face their
own mortality. Sure, we are all told from childhood that someday we will all
die. But that is someday. Now they are told that someday is here. Wow! No
matter what the age of the patient, it is like trying to get a child to leave
a game arcade. They want to play just one more game. It is natural to think
about dying, but the important thing is to concentrate on living.
Guide for Cancer Supporters is a book of suggestions of how a supporter can
improve the quality of life for a cancer patient and improve their chances of
successfully fighting the disease. It is designed to help the casual
acquaintance, the primary supporter, or those in between. Written in easily
understood language, it contains checklists of specific actions to take.
Guide for Cancer Supporters is available absolutely free, postpaid, by
calling 1-800-433-0464 or dropping a note with your name and address to
Cancer Hot Line, 4400 Main Street, Kansas City, MO 64111
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